The current monetary value of the elements in our bodies and our skin is $4.50. That’s only a bit higher than the price of a gallon of gas in most of the United States. The U.S. Bureau of Chemistry and Soils invested many tax dollars in calculating the chemical and mineral composition of the human body to determine their net worth. But it’s living inside that skin, and the complex structure and function of those chemicals and minerals that lead us to explore and understand our worth. The terms “self-worth” and “self-esteem” are often used interchangeably, but they actually describe different states of being.
Our self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves and can vary depending upon what happens to us. Get that promotion at work, and self-esteem soars. Fail a test or strike out on the game-winning pitch, and down it goes.
Our self-worth is our intrinsic and inherent value – in other words, simply by being in this body on this earth, we are worthwhile and valuable. We can sometimes lose touch with our self-worth. We can forget that we are valuable.
I'd like you to consider something that you may or may not have thought about before. When you don’t get that promotion at work, when someone chews you out for missing the game-winning pitch, your self-esteem can be temporarily affected, and you may not feel so good about your self, your skills and your abilities. For most of us that effect is short term. For some of us with high self-esteem, we may acknowledge, “yes I missed that, but it’s ok. I’ll do better next time around.” Either way, we move beyond it, and sometimes those dents and dings actually help us and motivate us.
So, some combination of our own self-perceptions and the perceptions of people and events in our environment will affect our self-esteem.
When you allow someone else's actions toward you or opinions of you to determine your self-worth, you hand over all your power to that person(s). In essence, you’re telling yourself (and the Universe) that someone else - no matter how flawed, screwed up or deeply in error they themselves may be - is in a position to judge you and define you.
Sometimes if we persist in the belief that our parents or our ex-lover has the power to devalue us in so profound and primal a way, we devalue ourselves and forget or lose touch with our self-worth. Why any of us would persist in believing that, I don't know. No one likes to be rejected and each of us wants to be loved, admired and appreciated, especially by those people in our lives who are important to us. But to make them the standard by which we then value ourselves is a sure way to become or remain miserable and lost.
How can you reclaim your sense of self-worth? Meditation, prayer, reflection, and introspection can all help you re-connect with and rebuild a positive, loving relationship with yourself. Whether or not you believe in a higher power, and however you connect with it if you choose to, you do have a primary relationship to nurture and maintain – with yourself.
An intuitive counselor, spiritual guide or advisor using Tarot or other tools can help you in this process. When you’re ready to rediscover and reaffirm your worth, taking the inward journey with a trustworthy partner can be a valuable and richly rewarding experience!
“SELF-WORTH comes from one thing -- thinking that you are worthy.”
~ Wayne Dyer
Love and peace,
Dona
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